Humility – a reality check!

We hear the words “empowerment” and “assertiveness” so often these days that humility or humbleness can be forgotten or considered a weakness.

The word “humility” means many different things to different people.  To me, it means knowing my own strengths while understanding and admitting to my own weaknesses.  It has become a vital part of my own personal recovery process.  Yes, I can be assertive to get my needs met (provided those needs are healthy) but at the same time, humility demands that I be respectful and honest with myself and other people.

My sobriety cannot afford to allow arrogance or an over-inflated ego to stand in the way.  These were my defense mechanisms when I was actively drinking and have no place in my recovery.

I have learned that with humility, I can admit that I don’t have all the answers and I am no longer afraid to ask questions fearing someone might think me “less than”.   I can accept criticism without taking it as a personal attack.  I am less judgmental and more empathetic and understanding.

Humility is not an easy lesson and it is not always easy to maintain.  I admit I can fall back into old ways of thinking – I struggle at times with the concept of humility.  But when that happens, I remind myself that there is freedom in having humility.  I have much less internal (and external) conflict or stress in my life and what I have gained is what I value most – happiness and serenity.


03Oct 2017

THE START The very start of recovery is Socialization at 12 step meetings. The first part of that is finding a HOME group. In effect finding a section of people that will accept you, warts and all. That is they shake your hand and introduce themselves, I hated that part when they asked if I […]

12Jul 2017

Lead by an experienced Addictions Counsellor, the groups include such discussion topics as: Understanding Relapse (how it happens and how to avoid it) Personality of an Addicted (tolerance, anxiety, grandiosity) Relapse Warning Signs (attitude & behavior changes, H.A.L.T.) Setting Goals for Relapse Prevention The sessions are held every Thursday afternoon at 2:30 p.m. in our […]

12May 2017

I personally hate dealing with conflict! It makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and like my skin is crawling. I would rather just ignore it or change everything. I had a very bad outlook on life and thought that people were generally useless stupid and selfish creatures who only cared for themselves. Although I am not […]

12May 2017

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thoughts on gratitude after addiction recovery

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27Jun 2016
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